Remembering Lyric Phoebe Carhart

As previously noted on this blog, Lori and I were expecting a new baby in April, 2009. Tragically, we suffered a miscarriage at five months on New Year's Eve, 2008. The end result is that we lost our baby. While we had been hoping for a little boy, as it turns out, our child would have been a little girl. Lori named her Lyric Phoebe. It was a devestating turn of events. Both Lori and I are still heartbroken by the loss.

Lori's primary way of dealing with the loss was to have me take down the crib and changing table from the baby's room. Since we've decided we're not going to try again, we got rid of all of the baby stuff. I sent an e-mail to everyone at work who's expecting and had a decent response. We gave away a lot of stuff. Thousands of dollars worth of stuff, probably. Crib, strollers, etc.

The way I deal with this kind of loss has to do with re-focusing my plans and goals. So tonight, Lori and I are going to sit down and look at our goals in every area of our life and adjust where we can, allowing for what our life will probably look like now without this new child in it over the next year or so.

So while we've decided to remove certain items from our life that will remind us of our loss, we choose to remember Lyric Phoebe, our child who "just couldn't make it."